A man has taken to social media to defend himself after his wife, Susan Ubangha, dragged him on social media for allegedly abandoning her in the hospital where she went to deliver their baby.
On Wednesday, May 15, a woman narrated how she got a donation from a Facebook user to pay for a cesarean section to have her baby.
She added that her husband objected to the CS, took her home, and gave her herbal medicine to drink.
When her situation escalated, she said she returned to the hospital and then gave her husband N240k out of the money donated by the kind-hearted man on Facebook to pay for the CS.
However, she said her husband left the hospital without paying so she had to give her husband’s sister the rest of the money to pay for the procedure.
When her husband got back, his sister confronted him, threatening to arrest him, so he allegedly disclosed he used the money to buy a phone and a dog.
The wife added that after the birth of their daughter, her husband abandoned her in Alimosho General Hospital, Igando.
Reacting on Facebook, the husband gave his account of what transpired.
He said his wife’s behaviour changed the moment the kind Facebook user donated a huge sum to her for their child’s birth.
He wrote: “Since the very minutes Obol Jesam Michael came to our rescue, my wife started displaying caprices that she can shout at me to the extent nurses and some patient have to beg me to ignore her. If you know my wife closely, you should know the kind of person she is.”
He explained that his pregnant wife was the one who initially objected to being in the hospital, so he took her home and got her agbo (herbal medicine).
He added that when his wife’s situation escalated, his neighbours came to call him that his wife was asking them to take her to the hospital.
He said he organised to get her to the hospital.
He explained that the donor who gave his wife money also called to urge him to agree to CS if that’s what will save his wife’s life.
When they returned to the hospital, he said his wife gave him N100k, not N240k as she claimed.
He said he used the money to pay for blood, tests, and drugs.
He then left the hospital to rush to his office in order to ask for partial leave.
He said this process took time and when he returned, his wife was shouting at him but he ignored her and did what he could to ensure the surgery goes smoothly.
He said he does not understand his wife’s rationale for going online to call him out.
“My wife I love so much. A woman I went against lots of advice to marry. Why will I abandon my first blood?” he said as he denied his wife’s claim that he abandoned her and their child in the hospital.
He added that he was in the hospital with his wife most of the time only to go online to see “such heartless and unconscious blackmail from a woman I call my kedei kemi.”
He continued: “Even if she wants to be pitied for more donations, I don’t deserve blackmail to further her cause.”
See the man’s full posts below:
“It’s disheartening to see a woman I ran up and down for coming to say unpalatable things about me.
Before the 29th of April where my daughter was birthed, I admitted my wife in Alimosho General hospital, Igando and I was with her for 4 good days. She personally told me we should go home since her labour isn’t coming forth..this was against doctor’s advice.
Since she was the one sayng she’s fine, I couldn’t argue with her , I then proceeded to the process to discharging her and it was a good convince since she was even walking with me to the finance office near the gate for clearance.
We came home that Saturday morning, she was fine and I have to go to work to get something for the house… For days, I absent myself from work to be with my wife in the hospital because there’s no one else me.
Coming back that Saturday, she started displaying some usual signs, so, here, I was so confused that my neighbors (Anita and Chioma) assisted in massaging her back . Not too long I called a nurse who happens to be my neighbor, she came checked her and said her BP is fine.
Being so worried, I ran to an old herbal specialist and complain the situation of my wife to her . This i did just to try other ways since she’s due and labour isn’t coming.
The nurse tried to check if its labour but she said she can’t lay straight so she could not access her. At this point everyone was confused.
At about 12:34Am when I was doing a midnight prayer just to be sure it’s not an evil arrow, I was called upon by these my two neighbors that I should come..
Coming out was my wife saying we should take her to the hospital, which I never hesitated..I ran to one of my neighbor’s who helped us with his car, and looking at the way she was , we all thought the baby must be close by, so we took her to the estate hospital just after our close where they couldn’t do much but ask us to take her to her hospital.
Reaching igando general hospital, I have to go reactivate her card, blood samples were ran, drugs was bought at my expenses because she’s my wife and it’s my responsibility to do so.
I slept there till Monday morning where I have to resume work from there.
I and my wife were very fine, I was the one holding her phones, going up and down. But since the very minutes obol jesam Michael came to our rescue, my wife started displaying caprices that she can shout at me to the extent the nurses and some patient have to beg me to ignore her. If you know my wife closely, you should know the kind of person she is.
The rest will be by thread.
Before I left my wife at the hospital to work, she made a post soliciting for funds and some of my family frown at that, but my response was simply, if it’s through that, my wife and baby will be fine so be it.
Not long obol Jesam Michael called me and it was I missed call that I returned to appreciate his kind gesture.
In the phone he told me if it’s Cs that is required for her I should do it to safe my baby and wife , and I said no problems Ete 🙏.
I left to office to obtain a partial leave so I can concentrate on my wife.. reaching office I have to sign some forms move from one office to another before my leave was unceremoniously approved 🙏.
I ran back to the hospital that same hour without waiting.. reaching there, my wife started shouting that I have eaten the 100k she sent 🙄🙄, that since morning I left the hospital am just coming.
I ignore her because the pressure from work and the hospital stuff got my head and mind full.
I reached out to the doctors to ascertain what’s next and I was told my wife will undergo a CS and I said oya na..
I signed the form and for minutes they are yet to take her to the theater..
It’s at this point I created awareness and she was examine for the last time…
Looking at her legs was a painted nailed and she can’t enter the theater with that . I ran out side despite the people she later entrusted everything can’t meet up..I was the one cleaning off those paint.
My wife sent only 100k to me which I used for blood, test, and drugs..
People who know me knows that I have not changed my phone.its still that last year phone and why will I even think of wasting when my wife and kid is at risk..
Hmm.
My wife I love so much. A woman I went against lots of advice to marry. Why will I abandon my first blood???
Even if my wife is suspecting anything, she should have waited for this storm to pass..
She should have , for our innocent beautiful daughter, she should have calm down and remember that she’s our first fruits.
I think my wife have a rationale for her decision and please, it is from this social media space I get to know that people have donated million for her…
I don’t know and I don’t care to know…
I was in the hospital on Monday, Tuesday and I even gave her money for food that Tuesday evening before leaving the hospital only to come online to see such an heartless and unconscious blackmail from a woman I call my kedei kemi..
I appreciate every single soul for every dime sent…. 🙏🙏. I can never be ungrateful. I say thank you 🙌🙏. God bless you really good 🙏.
This is not the time especially at this critical stage of my wife’s health and daughter please 🙏.
Even if she want to be pitied for more donations, I don’t deserve blackmail to further her cause,dear wife.
At least, for our innocent baby.
Moving forward, I was with them at the hospital on Monday, where I bought two of my baby food, and ice cream for my wife, leaving the Mall, I thought it’s not ice cream she needs but pepper soup, I have to go home to drop the ice cream and got a meat pepper soup for her….she didn’t tell the world that 🙄..?
Getting to the hospital, I got two big ever water and food for her mom…stayed with the and left after 9pm…this was from work I came.”
