A South African lady, Zizipho Majama, has taken to social media to regret her decision to decline the marriage proposal by her boyfriend of eight years.
Majama said she experienced love in its truest form in the eight years she spent with her now ex-boyfriend.
She explained that she had thought her boyfriend would understand that she was actually thinking for him by asking him not to rush things.
She said that the man was the only one working out of the two of them, they just had a baby, and he was billed to begin a five to six years course at the university.
Zee said she explained to him that it was better for them to wait for her to also get a job because she could not see how the man could cope with fending for the three of them.
She explained that her man did not object to her reason or explain how he planned to make things work, adding that if he had explained, she would have reconsidered her stance.
She said she was surprised to see that the man decided to move on with his life.
The lady expressed deep regret and sorrow over the aftermath of her decision.
Responding to a barrage of criticisms that attended her post, she explained that still believes the marriage could have been deferred because it would have been difficult for them to survive if she had married him.
According to her, she lived with her parents who supported her and her child, but the moment she married, she would become her boyfriend’s sole responsibility and the support she was getting from home would no longer be there.
She blamed the situation on her partner’s ego and pride, adding that he felt deeply hurt that she turned him down.
To a question of whether they can still patch things up, she wrote: “It’s pretty late😪. I think he was hurt so much and in turn, he hurt me so I can somehow feel what he’s feeling and that’s where I drew the line. It was ego, pride and lack of communication. But at least I get to say I experienced love🥺 in its most genuine form.”
Her original tweet:
“I dated my baby dad for 8 years. Best relationship of my life. NEVER cheated. He proposed marriage early this year. I declined. Guy moved on. It hurts, it hurts so bad. I did communicate my reasons and I thought he understood kanti.
“Reasons: He’s a breadwinner. Still in a process of finishing his home, he’s going to varsity next year for 5-6yrs, next year there wont be an income, I asked him to at least wait till I work. Our baby was 5 months then. I was only thinking for HIM. It was how I saw things. “It’s about his mental health. How are you to juggle varsity, kid, wife, family? Nd the cost of living in varsity is way high. I wasn’t going to put him through that. If he had said “I got this” And explain how I wouldn’t have declined.”
