The first daughter of one of Nigeria’s most famous pastors, Tunde Bakare, Mrs Olubunmi Fabode, has narrated how her father and mother nearly separated when she was just seven years old.
She made the revelation while speaking at the 40th wedding anniversary of her parents recently.
Recall that Pastor Tunde Bakare, 70, and his wife, Olayide, fondly called ‘Authentic Mrs. B’, celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary on November 30, 2024.
The ceremony was graced by their children, grandchildren, family, friends and well-wishers.
Speaking on the occasion, Fabode, described her parents’ union as a battleground against generational curses.
She recalled a moment from her childhood when her father told her that he and her mother were divorcing.
Fabode said she went into fervent prayer to avert the divorce because of her love for her siblings.
She said, “When I was seven years old, my father came to the room and told me ‘Your mother and I are going our separate ways. I am telling you this so you can decide who you want to live with’,” she said.
“I did not care so much about my mum and dad not living together, but I thought if they were separated, my siblings might choose either of our parents. And I knew that could not work because I absolutely love my siblings. They are the joy of my life. I knew that something had to happen to interrupt the plan about to hatch.
“My father grew up in a household of 12 wives and 22 children.
His father died when he was three. My mother was born in Leicester.
“She was raised by a British foster parent, then her grandmother, and was eventually raised by her father and stepmother. They each came from brokenness, dysfunction and upheaval. Somehow, they found each other, and they decided to try with nothing, but their faith in God.
“And the Bible as a guide to create something new that they had not experienced.”
She noted that her parents’ marriage was a battleground against generational curses, where they confronted and overcame the darkness of their past. Fabode praised her parents for creating an atmosphere of love and for being role models.
“Their marriage was not just a union, it was a battleground. A place where generational curses were confronted and wrestled to the ground,” she said. “A dear aunty once told me something that stayed with me. She said the first generation of any marriage that emerges from a broken home always faces an extraordinary battle because the enemy is working to perpetrate darkness from one more generation. Both of them stood in the gap and said this far and no further.
It is because of this testament that we are celebrating here today. Two people decided they could do something new under God. He was a casual Christian before he became married, but when he saw generational curses, nobody taught him to pray. “It came from inside. My mother, the woman that she is today: resilient, and nurturing, she learnt in this marriage to become that. She didn’t have a model. My father made sure we never lacked anything. My parents created an atmosphere of love.” Bakare married Olayide in 1984 and they have five children together.”
