A Nigerian lady, Wunmi Wonka, has complained about how insensitive people can be when consoling someone that is bereaved.
She recalled that when she lost her father, one of the ‘sympathizers’ that called her made it a point to remind her that it’s a shame that she never gave her father a grandchild while another chided her for sobbing at the cemetery and told her to focus on finding a husband instead.
She wrote: “Also, I want to talk about people being 100% inappropriate and saying the worst things to people grieving. A woman called to pay condolences and just blurted out “it’s such a shame you never gave your dad a grandchild,” she wrote on Twitter.
“Another person tapped me while I was crying at the cemetery to say “this isn’t what’s important now, focus on finding a husband and having a child” my father’s body hadn’t even entered the ground. I didn’t know either of these people before.
“By the time I realized what was said, I just gathered myself and walked away because really, I didn’t have the strength. It wasn’t my problem My daddy was gone and he was never going to speak to me again.”
